You hit the nail on the head, MJ. If you respect yourself and your vows, you probably won’t cheat. Problem is, my marriage wasn’t a good one and it took a toll on my self worth and my self respect. As the marriage went on, holding to our vows slowly eroded. I wouldn’t have done what I did if I felt supported and better about myself. I’m not blaming my former spouse. I own what I did. I didn’t want to face the truth about how bad things were and how broken I was. I’ve written about this in other stories.

What I was hoping to present here is that ignoring when things aren’t working becomes a breeding ground for problems like affairs. The fact is, affairs happen. And if we want to do what we can to prevent them, then we need to get to the bottom of why.

I don’t expect you to understand. Many people don’t. It’s a complicated issue. I appreciate you reading and your comments.