You are partially right. Affairs cannot be compared to a marriage relationship on all levels, but I do think the affair showed me what could be possible though. There we so many barriers to communication and intimacy with my ex that I didn’t have at all with the affair guy. My ex shut down any attempt I made to have difficult or even intimate conversations. I tried hard to crack his armor but never succeeded and you can’t have any depth in a relationship with someone like that. We just weren’t good together. I’m still not saying that the affair was right. But I did learn some things. I appreciate your message, Klara.