Well, I don’t think I was blaming them. I think it’s just hard to find someone who meshes well with us when we’re older and our lives are established.

I’m not sure on that percentage of rejections by women. I’d be curious to know where that is with men. I’ve been assessed and rejected too. That droopy shoulder guy rejected me before we even talked. He said he didn’t feel butterflies the moment he saw me. There were others I wanted to see again that weren’t interested in me. For me it often takes more than one date to get a feel for someone. I’ve been willing to give it time unless our conversation is completely flat.

I think dating apps are just hard to really assess someone. You have to meet to know how you vibe. It doesn’t always translate well over text.