Thanks for your supportive message. No, my affair partner and I didn’t have sex right away. We talked for maybe 9 months before we got physical. We struggled with the implications of the whole thing and how it could affect those around us.

I think the thing that was hardest about this was that with a few of these men my gut was telling me to say ‘no’. I didn’t want to have sex with them but I didn’t have the inner strength to say ‘No, stop.’ I do more so now.