Thank you, Francine, for being brave and vulnerable and sharing your story. You're right--the cheating wife is another type of article I couldn't find as well. Maybe you and I can change that, because we can't be the only two desperately seeking info about this.

I think it's okay to question whether or not you're doing the right thing. I think that means you aren't making this decision lightly. Like you, I'd emotionally left my marriage before the affair. And I think that's an indication that although our spouses might be good people, there's some deeper connection that's missing for us. I believe its important to pay attention to that. I also believe that distance gives us perspective.

I wish you the best as you take this path. For me, its been a journey with a touch of heartbreak, but mostly full of healthy change and transformation. I don't regret my affair even though we didn't end up together. The experience has caused me to work on myself and I think it has made me stronger, better person. Please keep in touch. Sending you a soul hug.