Thank you for reading, understanding and your kind words. Although it's hard to read the harsh responses, in many ways I understand their perspective too. Cheating is a hot button issue and many people have been deeply hurt by it. I only know that for me, my marriage vows of "to love and cherish" had been broken long before my affair happened. At that point, we were only really married on paper. Doesn't really excuse what I did, but may make it more understandable. As you said, there are many variations of cheating and I only meant to offer my story. . Thanks again, Charlene. :)