Many points here resonated with what my marriage was like, although I’d call it walking on egg shells. I was afraid to upset the apple cart and never felt like my marriage was a safe place emotionally. I was always unsure if he really loved me.
I’d never heard the signs of NPD until after I left and when I did so much of what I went through suddenly made sense. To my knowledge he was never formally diagnosed so I’ll never now for sure, but that really doesn’t matter now. I know how I felt.
Great article. I appreciate your insights.