I’m so sorry to read about your experience, Katherine. Although my experience with my ex wasn’t as extreme as this, it certainly wasn’t enjoyable, and like you, I figured something was wrong with me. Why do we do this to ourselves?! Argh. It wasn’t until I had sex with another man that I discovered what the fuss was all about. He wants me to feel good? Sex can be fun and playful?! Oh la la! I’m glad to know that you’ve now had better experiences too. Thank you for sharing your story.