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I Was Stuck and Desperately Seeking Information About Affairs
Are you involved in one and feeling stuck too?
Recently, I wrote a post about the things I needed most during my affair. This morning, an idea bubbled up about taking that post one step further. If you’re comfortable with what I’m proposing here, I invite you to participate. If not, see the note at the end for other options.
Two of the things I needed most during my affair were information and conversation. I needed to talk to someone about what I was feeling — preferably someone who’d been there before. Yet when I was in the midst of the affair, I was too ashamed to talk to anyone I knew about what was going on. I felt so stuck and I had no idea how to get myself unstuck.
So I turned to google. And what I found was largely unhelpful.
Mostly, I found three types of articles. The first type focused on information that heaped on a crap ton of guilt and shame.
Not helpful.
I already felt like I was carrying around a backpack full of guilt and shame I’d amassed all by myself. I didn’t need anyone else to add to my already heavy load.
The next ones I found were written by single women who only date married men because…
