I have not idea why it's so hard to find an available man. The affair was an easy find because he worked with two of my friends. That said, I wasn't looking for an affair when we met. We were friends before anything happened between us. It's more complicated than I can explain here.

I do have friends who have found great matches on the apps and a lot who haven't. I think it's timing, being open, and just plain luck.

You make a good point about my ex. I think you may be right.

I appreciate your thoughtful message.