Hi Pilar. Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I agree with you on a few points one of which is that he needed to talk to his wife. I did ask him if he had told her what he told me. He said he had tried a few times and was either misunderstood or dismissed. I wrote a little bit about this in a recent post, but basically the physical part of our relationship faded and I became more of a coach to help him find the words to help her understand. I've only begun to start writing about this, but I feel a strong calling now to help partners better understand each other and to be able to get their needs met within their committed relationships. It all starts with being able to communicate with each other--to both listen and understand with open hearts and minds--and to come to an agreement on how needs can be met. Both partners must be on board with this though, or it's like rowing a boat with one oar. You're never going to get anywhere.