Hi Peder. Thanks for the recommendation. I just finished reading a few articles on Oprah.com about Harville and his wife. Really good stuff.

I agree with your comment that it's not about transactions is a tit-for-tat kind of way, that I'll do this so you'll do that. But I do know from my experience that when I repeatedly gave compliments, showed appreciation and did things to show I cared, which were rarely acknowledged, it left me feeling like I was being taken for granted. There needs to be some type of balance, some type of partnership and reciprocity. Both parties must be all in or else it doesn't work.