Is that fair? And is he even a good yardstick? — At the time of this post, I’ve been on 57 first dates. Some of the guys I met for second and third dates. Some I dated for several months. With a few, we parted as friends, but over time the relationships dwindled. Needless to say, I still haven't found the…

All I wanted was a conversation. — A friend called me the other day completely livid. Someone stole her daughter’s bike. The bike had been in the basement of her apartment locked up with two separate locks. “Why do people do this?” She exclaimed. “Why can’t they just buy their own bike?” But as far as I…

Your husband is a good dog. — I’m guessing I was an unusual affair partner. In the beginning, of course, my intentions weren’t noble. I wanted him to leave his wife and live happily ever after with me. But after many honest conversations about the struggles within our marriages and why we were doing what we were…

It’s a question I get asked a lot after admitting to having an affair. — In a recent comment to one of my stories, Eden Dawson wrote: I’m curious about how divorce isn’t easy but an affair is. Affairs involve investment, changing your routine, keeping your story straight consistently, etc. And the fallout can be seriously messy. Some people lose their jobs, lives, and peace…

Would it this time? — “Ah. Looks like Marilyn’s gettin’ a little Patrick.” My sister said these words with a smile as we passed by a pickup truck covered in lawn care stickers parked outside her neighbor’s house. Marilyn, who lived across the street from her, had an FWB thing going on with Patrick, a…

Here are 3 things that help me achieve one — Orgasms and happiness have a lot in common. Both make me smile. Both create an amazing all-over-my-body sparkly feeling. And both are my responsibility. I recently asked several healthy, well-connected couples if it’s their partner’s responsibility to make them happy. Emphatically, they all said no. …

Having healthy boundaries is the key to successful relationships — I just finished reading Mark Manson's book The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck and learned so much that I signed up to receive his emails. Mark’s words have cracked my head open. I’m seeing myself and my failed marriage in a whole new way. A few weeks before…

When hearing a song you haven’t heard in a while helps you see how far you’ve come — An interesting thing happened recently when I listened to a song I hadn’t heard in several years. It transported me to a different time. To a place I once lived. To a ‘me’ I used to be. A few weekends ago, I took a road trip and popped Semisonic’s All…

When your mind won’t let you sleep — Ever wake up in the middle of the night and your mind decides to go into overdrive? Happened to me last night. It happens to all of us now and then, I suppose. I once heard Thich Nhat Hahn say in order to quiet the mind, “See your thoughts as…